Severing the Ties of One's Relatives
Taken from 'Al Kabair' of Imam
Dhahabi RA
[Major sin number- 9]
Allah, the Most High, says in the
Quran,
1.{Fear Allah, through Whom ye
demand your mutual (rights) and be heedful of the wombs.} (An-Nisa:1)
2.{Then it is to be expected of
you, if you were put in authority, that you will do mischief in the land, and
break your ties of kith and kin: Such are the men whom Allah has cursed for He
has made them deaf and blinded their sight.} (Muhammad: 22-23)
3.{Those who fulfill the covenant
of Allah and fail not in their plighted word; those who join together those
things which Allah hath commanded to be joined, hold their Lord in awe, and
fear the terrible reckoning.} (Ar-Ra'd: 20-21)
4.{He causes many to stray, and many
He leads into the right path,. But He causes not to stray, except those who
forsake (the path), those who break Allah's covenant after it is ratified, and
who sunder what Allah has ordered to be joined, and do mischief on earth: Those
cause loss only to themselves.} (Al-Baqarah: 26-27)
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The Prophet (pbuh) said,
1."He who severs his family
ties will not enter Paradise.”Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Thus, whoever abandons his
relatives, is proud over them and disdains to support the needy if he is rich
is included in this punishment unless he repents to Allah the Most Exalted and
treats them well.
It was related that the Messenger of
Allah (pbuh) said,
2."Whoever has poor relatives
and does not treat them well and pays his charity to others and neglects them,
Allah does not accept his charity and will not look to him on the Day of
Judgment.” Reported by Al-Mundhiri.
3.The Prophet (pbuh) said,
"Wet your wombs (relationships)
even by just greeting.”
lbn Hajar AI-Hathami mentioned it in
Majma' Al-Zawa'id and said it is reported by Al-Bazzar.
4.The Prophet (pbuh) also said,
"Whoever believes in Allah and
the Last Day should maintain good relationship with his kin.”
Reported by AI-Bukhari.
5."A person who reciprocates in
doing good is not the one who joins his blood relations generously,' but he is the
one who joins with his blood relations when they cut (the relationship) with
him.”
Reported by AI-Bukhari.
6."Allah Almighty says, "I
am the Merciful and it is the womb i.e. blood relation. I will hold by him who
hold by it; and I will cut asunder from him who cuts asunder from it.”
Reported by At- Tirmidhi
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Ali Ibn AI-Husain, may Allah be
pleased with him, said to his son, "O son do not befriend he who severs
the ties of his kin since I have found him cursed in Allah's Book three
times."
One day, Abu Hurairah [RA], May
Allah be pleased with him, sat to deliver a lesson about the people's
tradition? Then, he said, "I hope that anyone of you who severs the ties
of his kins to leave us." A young man sitting at the end of the circle
left. The young man went forward to his aunt whom he did not visit for years
and reconciled her. His aunt asked him: "Why did you come, my
nephew?" He said, "When I sat to listen from Abu Hurairah, the
prophet's companion, he said, "I hope anyone of you who severs the ties of
his kin to leave us." Then, his aunt asked him to go back to Abu Hurairah
to ask him about the reason. Thereupon, Abu Hurairah answered: "I heard
the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) saying, "Mercy is not showed upon a group of
people among them is someone who severs the ties of his kins.”
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Once, a wealthy man when traveling
to the Sacred House in Mecca to perform Hajj (pilgrimage), deposited one
hundred thousand Dinars to a trustworthy and righteous man until he returned
from Arafat. Having stood on Arafat, he returned to Mecca to find
that the man was dead. He asked the deceased's family for his money. But they
knew nothing about the money. Accordingly, he explained the plight to the
scholars of Mecca who then told him to approach the Zamzam well at
midnight and then call upon the man.They said, "If he answered you the
first time you called, he was among the people of Paradise." But the man
went back to them after doing what they said with no response.
Thereupon, they said, "To Allah
we belong and to Him is our return. The man might be of the people of Fire.
Thus, you have to go to Yemen where there is a well-called Barhut. It is said
that this well is at the mouth of the Hell, and call upon the man at midnight.
Therein, if he is among the people of Fire he will answer you".
Having arrived in Yemen and
approaching the well, he called upon the man and the man responded. He asked
him about the wealth. He told him, "I had buried it in such and such a
place. Thus, you could go there and dig to regain your wealth." Then, he
asked him why he was in such a (horrible) place though people thought good of
him? He said, "I had a poor sister whom I abandoned and did not treat
her well. Thereby, Allah punished me because of her."
This is shown in the Prophet's
saying,
"He who severs the ties of his
family will not enter Paradise.” [Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.]
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