The Talaq and polygamy "bombs":

The Talaq and polygamy "bombs":

-Dr Habeeb Haris

Some husbands and in-laws loosely use the threats of "talaq" and/ or "second marriage" in arguments/disputes with the wife in order to pressurise her for various things. This is the most ignorant and stupid thing to do as it destroys the family life and causes:

-The wife to forever distrust her husband and makes her feel unstable and vulnerable.

-She will lose all love and respect for the husband and his family.

-If the children hear it, they will hate the father forever.

-Pushes her to go to Aamils and black magicians who can exploit her in many ways.

-If she is not strong in her Imaan and ilm, it can make her detest and hate the Shariah laws which can take her out of Islam without her even realising it, even if she prays Salah regularly and does all other obligations of Islam.

-Can push her to make arrangements for a plan B in case the husband acts on his threats. This can even open the door to extramarital affairs.

-Causes severe mental tension and distress to her which can cause her psychological disorders.

-Can make her fall prey to feminist propaganda.

-Creates a negative image of the pure Shariah and it's family laws in the society.

Please use your tongue carefully. It can destroy your or someone else's life and Aakhirat even. The Shariah provisions of talaq and polygamy should be used responsibly and in a very thoughtful and serious way. It should not be used as a threat to win arguments. Naudhubillah.

If there are any problems in the marriage, the couple should take proper family counseling from the ulama and Muslim family councillors instead of using such cheap and counterproductive arguments. May Allah give us tawfeeq.